Source: Psychology Today
“You are out on a first date with a prospective partner. Over dinner, you enjoyed engaging conversation and great chemistry. But now here comes the bill. Thirty years ago, your server would probably have placed it squarely down in front of the man. Today, it is customarily placed in the middle of the table, creating perhaps the first awkward moment of the evening.
What happens now?
The arrival of the check can spark a showdown if the man grabs it and the woman insists on paying half, or a staredown if he doesn’t. Why is this important? Because research indicates that the party who pays for a first date shapes the expectations of what is going to happen next.
True, expectations are also shaped by other factors, such as the price tag and choice of venue. A man who springs for an expensive meal and a bottle of wine served at a candlelit table in a swanky restaurant might have different expectations than a man who is able to grab two stools on the fly in…Read More”