As women, we find it quite challenging to stay out of our friend’s relationship. I know, I know…you don’t like him, you can’t stand him, you may even feel that she was happier with what’s-his-face…weeell…that’s all find and dandy. However, is it really your business? If you have to wonder, it probably is not your business after all. Here are 5 reason we think you should consider before poking your nose in your friend’s relationship drama.
You’re Not Doing The Heavy Lifting.
As if relationships are not enough work between two people with two different personalities, you decide to insert yourself into the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with speaking to your friend from a place of concern for her, but at end of the day, it’s not totally fair of you to stir up emotions within your friend when you won’t be involved in the heavy lifting required to repairing the damage done by the argument that you may have played a role in.
Relationships Are Private.
I know, guys usually use this line to keep their girl’s friends out of their business so that they can go off and ‘do’ him/her and/or ‘everybody else. However, at the end of the day, you think you know your friend, but you really never know why she may be staying in that relationship. Sometimes if your friend is being a fool over a guy, you have to let her go through it. As my mom always says, “Ain’t no sense like bought sense;” meaning sometimes a person has to experience things for themselves to understand the problem at hand.
If It Is Marriage, It Is Sacred
Once a couple is married, it becomes absolutely necessary to stay out of their relationship, because for better or for worse they should be rocking with one another. At this point in the relationship your opinions, unless you’ve been asked, should not be volunteered. This can be seen as disrespect to their vows and disrespect to their relationship.
Bottom line, mind your business…stay out of it…be a listening ear and shoulder to cry on. If you have a friend who is in an unhealthy relationship the best thing you can do is to be there for them when they’re ready to come out of it. That’s what real friends do!
How do you feel about getting involved in a friend’s relationship? #LetsTalkAboutIt