In long-term romantic relationships, compromise is necessary. As the old saying goes “you’ve got to give a little to get a little.” You can’t continue on with your single habits such as meeting up with your friends with any free time that you have, or continuing to frequent clubs and bars. Some things will have to change. No don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with continuing to have fun and continuing to have a life, but we simply mean that once in a relationship, you must give a little more consideration to your habits and behavior.
Compromise is one of the many reason that people experience challenges in relationships. Often times communication can reduce the amount of confusion. With romantic relationships, there needs to be a clear understanding of expectations. But the question often arises, how much is too much? How much compromise should be expected when in a romantic relationship? Psychology Today provides some examples of romantic compromises that should be self-evident such as:
1. If you do not live together, you should take turns going to each others’ homes or neighborhoods, unless you both have a good reason not to, and it’s a reason you have talked about.
2. If it is known to both of you that your favorite cuisine is Mexican, and your partner’s favorite cuisine is Italian, don’t always go out to Mexican restaurants.
3. If you make, roughly, the same amount of money, split the bill. If you don’t, find a reasonable way to share costs: Say you have about twice as much money to use for restaurant visits each month as your partner: In that scenario, you ought to pay twice as often as he or she does (or twice as much).
4. If one person has more commitments and duties than his or her partner—longer hours at work, children from a previous relationship, a sick parent—the other partner should go out of his or her way to help out, directly or indirectly.
Compromising behavior for most people is almost a requirement for most people. This behavior is what leads to healthy long-term relationships. If you are in a situation where you find yourself constantly giving and never on the receiving end of the perks of having a relationship, it may be time that you reconsidered the status of that relationship.